No Less (or more) Worthy

Hey…so you know that there’s nothing you can do or not do to make you less “worthy”, right? Like, we’ve all talked about this enough to know it in our knowers by now. We know it’s a given.

Then why is it that some women still feel a little knot of unsettledness in their gut? I have a friend who feels it in her throat and I heard a woman talk about feeling that little knot wound up in her chest like a subtle pipe clamp on her lungs, a slight emotional breathlessness. I feel it in my teeth. All of them. It’s a tightness that reminds me of when I had braces. My teeth know. The questions we think we’ve answered around worthiness keep showing up differently for all of us but our bodies + souls know and our minds try to compensate, explain, and prove what we say we know but haven’t bought into with our whole souls yet.
Here’s what I want to tell you. The conversation about what can’t make you less worthy is not what many of us need to be talking about any more. It’s the thoughts we have about what we think will make us MORE worthy. Do you see how it’s often the flip side of the “nothing will make me less worthy” insistence?

When you realize that there is also nothing you can do to make you MORE worthy, what then? What exhausting efforts will you drop without a second thought? What positions will you release trying to defend? What version of “just being you” will feel like the most aligned way of being ever for you? In what ways would you show up for yourself and your creative impulses if you dropped the story that showing up for yourself and your creative impulses in any certain way would make you more worthy of joy and a satisfying dynamic with them? Read that again if you need to. It’s a bit of a mind bender but I really want you to feel the truth of it because in the truth is so much more joy and creative freedom.