Perfectionism is a lie, friends. But maybe not for the reasons you think.

Can you even define the boxes you’d have to check in order to arrive at “perfect”? Perfectionism is subjective. Not only that, it’s often not even defined by those of us who believe it’s something hindering our movement forward.

Somewhere along the way we might even recognize it as an excuse to avoid doing something hard, something that we’re afraid of failing at - publicly, embarrassingly, laughably - but what’s even more true is that the restrictive idea of being a perfectionist relies on you being exactly who you are, right now, right this very second for FOREVER.

It assumes that growth can NOT be a part of your journey.
It demands that you never gain new awarenesses, insights, skills, or perspectives.

Striving for a perfection that is undefined, subjective, and stagnant is a waste of your precious, luminous, radiant energy. Believing that perfectionism is a condition that keeps you from progressing is giving power to the wrong thing but there are some simple ways you can start loosening the bonds of that lie:
1. honor the part of you that takes responsibility for her life experience and define your own goals according to your own needs, desires, and abilities.
2. honor your need to adjust this definition at ANY time, for any reason, without making it mean that you are falling short.
3. make one small decision. Something that you will do to move in the direction you have defined (previously known as “perfection”)
4. stand up for your decision and welcome the growth, change of perspective, and recalibrating that will happen along the way.

Know this, your life experience IS perfection. Your growth and stumbling and questioning IS a faithful life.